Losing Yourself in Motherhood. And Finding Yourself Again

Somewhere between school drop-offs, travel sports, and client meetings, I lost a little piece of me.

Sound familiar?

It wasn’t dramatic at first. A skipped workout here, a postponed girls’ night there. Then, somewhere along the way, in the constant act of showing up for everyone else, I forgot how to show up for me. But I wasn’t aware of it. I was aware of, always feeling tired. So tired. Unreasonably annoyed for doing the things I have always done... all of it, grocery shopping, laundry, dr. apt scheduling….

Welcome to the silent epidemic: the myth of “doing it all.”

We were raised to believe we could and should be everything to everyone. The reliable partner. The ever-present mom. The professional powerhouse. The PTA contributor. The emotional glue. And somewhere in that relentless pursuit of ‘all of it,’ we lost track of what we want, need, and love.

But here’s the thing: Motherhood may reshape us, but it doesn’t have to erase us.

Rediscovery Isn’t a Luxury. It’s a Lifeline

Post-full-time motherhood isn’t a blank space. It’s fertile ground. And it’s not selfish to reclaim it, it’s smart. But for me, it was hard to give myself permission for that. I had a thriving career that suddenly felt flat, I had spent so much time focused on what brings my daughter joy and how to ensure she has the best childhood to launch her into life I totally forgot what my joys were, I absorbed hers, and for the moment that was okay or so I thought.

But here's what I learned after drop-off: in the chaos of silence.

We’re allowed to explore what lights you up outside of your kid and their interests. Whether that means picking up a forgotten hobby, starting something you've always wanted to do but haven’t had time, early AM yoga, Wednesday night painting class, or finally booking that kid-free trip, these intentional acts of self-discovery are radical forms of self-respect.

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We Raised Them and Now We Rise.